The hidden cost of “I’m fine”

We’ve all been there. Someone asks how you’re doing, and you respond with, “I’m fine,” even when you’re anything but. Hiding behind this mask of contentment may feel protective, but what is it really costing us?

A 2023 UK Women’s Health Survey reported that 78% of women feel overwhelmed or anxious at least once a week. Yet, most of us continue to say, “I’m fine” and push through. The impact of chronic stress from suppressing emotions is significant. The body’s response to stress triggers the release of cortisol, a hormone that, when elevated for prolonged periods, disrupts almost every system, from your sleep patterns to your gut health.

The Domino Effect on Hormones
High cortisol levels interfere with oestrogen and progesterone, leading to symptoms such as fatigue, irregular periods, and mood swings. It’s a vicious cycle: stress worsens hormonal imbalances, and hormonal imbalances increase stress. Women with conditions like PCOS and endometriosis are particularly affected.

Gut Health: The Surprising Link
Have you ever felt “butterflies” in your stomach when you’re nervous? That’s your gut-brain axis in action. Your gut produces up to 90% of your serotonin, the “feel-good” hormone. When stress throws this balance off, gut issues like bloating, cramping, or IBS can flare up.

Emotional Isolation
Saying “I’m fine” isolates us from the support we need. We can’t build genuine connections if we’re not being authentic. According to research by Dr. Brené Brown, vulnerability is the key to connection. But how do we feel safe enough to let the mask slip?

Our 7-month Let the Mask Slip program, culminating in a September retreat, offers a safe and empowering space to be honest, connect, and heal. Ready to stop hiding and start thriving? Join our waiting list and take the first step toward reclaiming your true self.